Why you can’t build a life trying to be unhateable — practice, practice, and practice some more

Or: Why you’ll be bad at this before you’re good

Dec 23 • Marjan Venema

Why you can’t build a life trying to be unhateable — your buttons are yours

No one wants to hear this, yet I’m saying it anyway: You can’t control whether people like you.

Dec 16 • Marjan Venema

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Why you can’t build a life trying to be unhateable — the ghost audience effect

My neighbor hates my guts. Not fun at all. But what if being disliked by the wrong people is a clear sign you’re doing something right?

Dec 9 • Marjan Venema

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November 2025

Stop acting in everyone else's play

Influencers are susceptible to being captured by their audience. Women are susceptible to being captured by everyone around them. As a result of their…

Nov 5 • Marjan Venema

October 2025

Japie, a story about a strong-willed little bird with a surprising end

In memory of Jaap

Oct 28 • Marjan Venema

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Becoming a “difficult” woman: how to police your boundaries and get people to like doing what you want them to do without anyone noticing…

The power and beauty of positive reinforcement

Oct 17 • Marjan Venema

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September 2025

Nina changed my mind

I was convinced that having a hunting dog doesn't necessarily mean you need to take up hunt training. Nina, a Field Trial Labrador, and the epitome of a…

Sep 16 • Marjan Venema

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August 2025

Simple way to transform paralyzing fear into unstoppable action

Three realizations and two actions is all it takes

Aug 7 • Marjan Venema

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July 2025

Ban the crickets: Your secret weapon against overwhelm & being ignored

Agile practices for one (#2) — the harsh truth about crickets feasting on your work and what a Definition of Done can do about it for you.

Jul 16 • Marjan Venema

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May 2025

Zap your autopilot for a sensationally enviable life

Your first step to a shamelessly fulfilling life worth living every day

May 13 • Marjan Venema

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April 2025

How I wasted 3 years or was it 3 decades?

My story about going round in spirals and about resisting what I needed to do

Apr 24 • Marjan Venema

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I was always in a hurry - until I stopped - here's how

And stopped feeling frazzled all the time

Apr 1 • Marjan Venema

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