I find it hard to resist friends' requests whenever they arrive, although sometimes I procrastinate and don't reply which is a cop out really rather than a deliberate choice. I will think about making it intentional next time I don't really want to help somebody. Except that sometimes I don't even see the request because I am not perpetually looking at my computer or phone as so many people expect us to do the whole time. Making yourself unavailable by not looking at messages can definitely be intentional - eg at weekends, although most I just do it because I don't remember where I put my phone.
It's okay to _want_ to help and still not do it. It's also okay to be able to help and not want to. Wanting, being able (many aspects to that!), and doing are three different things.
And yes, absolutely, making yourself 'unavailable' is a good tactic, deliberate or not!
Every disadvantage (forgetting where you put your phone) has its advantages. Have that on good authority (Johan Cruijff / Willen van Hanegem).
I find it hard to resist friends' requests whenever they arrive, although sometimes I procrastinate and don't reply which is a cop out really rather than a deliberate choice. I will think about making it intentional next time I don't really want to help somebody. Except that sometimes I don't even see the request because I am not perpetually looking at my computer or phone as so many people expect us to do the whole time. Making yourself unavailable by not looking at messages can definitely be intentional - eg at weekends, although most I just do it because I don't remember where I put my phone.
It's okay to _want_ to help and still not do it. It's also okay to be able to help and not want to. Wanting, being able (many aspects to that!), and doing are three different things.
And yes, absolutely, making yourself 'unavailable' is a good tactic, deliberate or not!
Every disadvantage (forgetting where you put your phone) has its advantages. Have that on good authority (Johan Cruijff / Willen van Hanegem).